Comments on: Something’s ____ing http://www.monasmusings.com/somethings-____ing/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=somethings-____ing Mona's posts and podcasts share how to create and sustain married love: follow her romantic twist on a turn abroad... Sun, 29 Jan 2012 06:27:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: mona http://www.monasmusings.com/somethings-____ing/#comment-497 mona Wed, 28 Apr 2010 17:42:21 +0000 http://www.monasmusings.com/?p=860#comment-497 Bill: Wow. You've caught me on a day when I'm more than overwhelmed with change. If you look at past musings, you will see how I have struggled with change this year, so I sympathize with Amber. But, Bill, your attitude is exactly what she needs to hear: that her man will be with her and protect her no matter what; that together you can adjust to any circumstance and beat the odds if you have to; and that, with faith, everything works out. That's what women need to hear and believe. (Pssst...repeatedly.) Bill: Wow. You’ve caught me on a day when I’m more than overwhelmed with change. If you look at past musings, you will see how I have struggled with change this year, so I sympathize with Amber. But, Bill, your attitude is exactly what she needs to hear: that her man will be with her and protect her no matter what; that together you can adjust to any circumstance and beat the odds if you have to; and that, with faith, everything works out. That’s what women need to hear and believe. (Pssst…repeatedly.)

]]> By: Bill http://www.monasmusings.com/somethings-____ing/#comment-495 Bill Wed, 28 Apr 2010 15:46:09 +0000 http://www.monasmusings.com/?p=860#comment-495 I read an article a while back about spouses sleeping in separate rooms from each other because of a number of different factors: sleep schedule, snoring, temperature preferences, etc. Many found when they could get better rest, they were happier in their marriage. The idea of sleeping in separate rooms doesn't appeal to me, in fact on the few occasions when we have, I have been miserable. I really did feel that something was ____ing. I really can't imagine living far apart for an extended length of time. I think it takes an especially committed relationship and strength of character to make it work. When spending significant time apart and being busy with demanding careers, many people could become accustomed to the absence of the other. Amber and I have some goals and plans, and so far we are doing pretty good at staying on track. But sometimes with money, she worries that things will come up that require us to alter those plans. The thing I try to tell her though is that we will get through it. We'll make any necessary changes, and develop new goals, but we'll do it together. I read an article a while back about spouses sleeping in separate rooms from each other because of a number of different factors: sleep schedule, snoring, temperature preferences, etc. Many found when they could get better rest, they were happier in their marriage. The idea of sleeping in separate rooms doesn’t appeal to me, in fact on the few occasions when we have, I have been miserable. I really did feel that something was ____ing. I really can’t imagine living far apart for an extended length of time. I think it takes an especially committed relationship and strength of character to make it work. When spending significant time apart and being busy with demanding careers, many people could become accustomed to the absence of the other.

Amber and I have some goals and plans, and so far we are doing pretty good at staying on track. But sometimes with money, she worries that things will come up that require us to alter those plans. The thing I try to tell her though is that we will get through it. We’ll make any necessary changes, and develop new goals, but we’ll do it together.

]]> By: mona http://www.monasmusings.com/somethings-____ing/#comment-489 mona Tue, 27 Apr 2010 23:46:26 +0000 http://www.monasmusings.com/?p=860#comment-489 Chris: You are right of course. Two independent people can be very happily married and in fact, I believe are more satisfied when they are supporting one another pursuing their dreams. In the case Hannah is referring to, the situation her friends were discussing involved a choice that the married couple had to make about living apart (faaaaar apart) while pursuing separate career goals. That is a conundrum for a lot of couples today and I'm just glad I am not the one dealing with it. Chris: You are right of course. Two independent people can be very happily married and in fact, I believe are more satisfied when they are supporting one another pursuing their dreams. In the case Hannah is referring to, the situation her friends were discussing involved a choice that the married couple had to make about living apart (faaaaar apart) while pursuing separate career goals. That is a conundrum for a lot of couples today and I’m just glad I am not the one dealing with it.

]]> By: Chris http://www.monasmusings.com/somethings-____ing/#comment-487 Chris Tue, 27 Apr 2010 19:08:42 +0000 http://www.monasmusings.com/?p=860#comment-487 Hannah, why can't a couple have a goal to advance in their respective careers? They can't help each other out with that? Your friends' feelings are correct, and pretty normal. Lots of very much in love people and happy people in the world who are also able to get ahead in their jobs and "do their own thing." Just not really sure why you can't do both. Not every relationship fits a specific mold. Every couple is different, and every love is unique, and I don't know how much it helps to judge your friends for wanting something different than you do. Hannah, why can’t a couple have a goal to advance in their respective careers? They can’t help each other out with that? Your friends’ feelings are correct, and pretty normal. Lots of very much in love people and happy people in the world who are also able to get ahead in their jobs and “do their own thing.”

Just not really sure why you can’t do both. Not every relationship fits a specific mold. Every couple is different, and every love is unique, and I don’t know how much it helps to judge your friends for wanting something different than you do.

]]> By: Sarah http://www.monasmusings.com/somethings-____ing/#comment-485 Sarah Tue, 27 Apr 2010 16:49:03 +0000 http://www.monasmusings.com/?p=860#comment-485 This was the sweetest sketch ever! Who knew The Muppet Show had marriage morals to it? I guess I didn't watch the show very much. I'm SO excited about my honey and the compliment he is for me! I'm SO BLESSED! I LOVE that guy. This was the sweetest sketch ever! Who knew The Muppet Show had marriage morals to it? I guess I didn’t watch the show very much.

I’m SO excited about my honey and the compliment he is for me! I’m SO BLESSED! I LOVE that guy.

]]> By: Hannah http://www.monasmusings.com/somethings-____ing/#comment-471 Hannah Mon, 26 Apr 2010 05:10:19 +0000 http://www.monasmusings.com/?p=860#comment-471 I was chatting with a couple of friends the other day, and the discussion started turning to the topic of marriage and a couple’s social life. Both of these girls felt that it is great to be independent and married at the same time. They felt that couples should be able to do their own thing, advance their own careers, and pursue their own goals separately, but still be in love. Really? I couldn’t believe my ears. I didn't quite know what to say. I find this very sad that many single adults and married adults think this is how a marriage should be. Is marriage just turning to a piece of legally signed papers? Yeah we have a piece of paper and we are “in love”, but isn’t something’s missing? Marriage is becoming ONE – MERGING. Not only is the spouse missing if they focus only on their wants and try to be both independent and married, but UNITY is missing. That unity creates a full measure of love, devotion, and oneness. That unity creates power, generates change, and produces true and real accomplishments. We will only feel truly fulfilled when we are ONE, one in love, in spirit, in goals, with nothing missing. I was chatting with a couple of friends the other day, and the discussion started turning to the topic of marriage and a couple’s social life. Both of these girls felt that it is great to be independent and married at the same time. They felt that couples should be able to do their own thing, advance their own careers, and pursue their own goals separately, but still be in love.

Really?

I couldn’t believe my ears. I didn’t quite know what to say. I find this very sad that many single adults and married adults think this is how a marriage should be. Is marriage just turning to a piece of legally signed papers? Yeah we have a piece of paper and we are “in love”, but isn’t something’s missing? Marriage is becoming ONE – MERGING. Not only is the spouse missing if they focus only on their wants and try to be both independent and married, but UNITY is missing. That unity creates a full measure of love, devotion, and oneness. That unity creates power, generates change, and produces true and real accomplishments. We will only feel truly fulfilled when we are ONE, one in love, in spirit, in goals, with nothing missing.

]]> By: Serene http://www.monasmusings.com/somethings-____ing/#comment-452 Serene Sun, 25 Apr 2010 06:13:24 +0000 http://www.monasmusings.com/?p=860#comment-452 Ha ha, cute song! As much as I most certainly didn't realize it at first and thought that Luke and I just might not be all that compatible, I realize that we GREATLY balance each other out. We have both brought out buried treasures in each other that couldn't have been reached without a whole lot of... refining. =) Ha ha, cute song!

As much as I most certainly didn’t realize it at first and thought that Luke and I just might not be all that compatible, I realize that we GREATLY balance each other out. We have both brought out buried treasures in each other that couldn’t have been reached without a whole lot of… refining. =)

]]> By: mona http://www.monasmusings.com/somethings-____ing/#comment-444 mona Sat, 24 Apr 2010 22:44:25 +0000 http://www.monasmusings.com/?p=860#comment-444 Bri: I'd forgotten that - that he's sung it at the reception. Perfect. I like your idea of "flip-flop" (like hither and yon!) Bri: I’d forgotten that – that he’s sung it at the reception. Perfect. I like your idea of “flip-flop” (like hither and yon!)

]]> By: mona http://www.monasmusings.com/somethings-____ing/#comment-443 mona Sat, 24 Apr 2010 22:43:23 +0000 http://www.monasmusings.com/?p=860#comment-443 Wendy: May we make a date for Italian ice cream with you and yours?!?! Sara Lyn: You win the consolation prize! Which is.....hmmm.....I set it down here somewhere! Oh! There it is! The remains of a bowl of ice cream enjoyed in YOUR honor! Rebecca: Cute AND true?! Wendy: May we make a date for Italian ice cream with you and yours?!?!

Sara Lyn: You win the consolation prize! Which is…..hmmm…..I set it down here somewhere! Oh! There it is! The remains of a bowl of ice cream enjoyed in YOUR honor!

Rebecca: Cute AND true?!

]]> By: Rebecca Webb http://www.monasmusings.com/somethings-____ing/#comment-439 Rebecca Webb Sat, 24 Apr 2010 19:52:17 +0000 http://www.monasmusings.com/?p=860#comment-439 Super cute! And so true! Super cute! And so true!

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