Comments on: Across Hearts http://www.monasmusings.com/across-hearts/ Mona's posts and podcasts share how to create and sustain married love: follow her romantic twist on a turn abroad... Wed, 01 Sep 2010 00:08:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: mona http://www.monasmusings.com/across-hearts/#comment-113 mona Mon, 18 Jan 2010 05:14:36 +0000 http://www.monasmusings.com/?p=126#comment-113 Sarah E., The only hope of enduring any separation gracefully is keeping it in context... Sarah E., The only hope of enduring any separation gracefully is keeping it in context…

]]> By: Sarah E. http://www.monasmusings.com/across-hearts/#comment-112 Sarah E. Sun, 17 Jan 2010 02:20:32 +0000 http://www.monasmusings.com/?p=126#comment-112 Every time I read this post, I yearn to CLEAVE to my spouse. And yes, I have experienced brief episodes of my spouse's absence, but I have not endured like the real champions. I could go on and on about the small things I do to get through those separations, but I can't help but come back to the times I have picked my spouse up from the airport and about fallen over realizing, "Hey, that guy is waiting for ME! Crazy! He likes me and is waiting for ME." I love that man and love you Ramona. May those separations be as BRIEF as humanly possible! With real love! Every time I read this post, I yearn to CLEAVE to my spouse. And yes, I have experienced brief episodes of my spouse’s absence, but I have not endured like the real champions. I could go on and on about the small things I do to get through those separations, but I can’t help but come back to the times I have picked my spouse up from the airport and about fallen over realizing, “Hey, that guy is waiting for ME! Crazy! He likes me and is waiting for ME.” I love that man and love you Ramona.
May those separations be as BRIEF as humanly possible!
With real love!

]]> By: mona http://www.monasmusings.com/across-hearts/#comment-104 mona Thu, 14 Jan 2010 19:08:51 +0000 http://www.monasmusings.com/?p=126#comment-104 Lois, so much of life has to be languish or laughter - you choose. Thank you for that reminder!! Lois, so much of life has to be languish or laughter – you choose. Thank you for that reminder!!

]]> By: Lois Brown http://www.monasmusings.com/across-hearts/#comment-99 Lois Brown Thu, 14 Jan 2010 13:13:03 +0000 http://www.monasmusings.com/?p=126#comment-99 In our 31 yrs of marriage there were only a few times of long absences from each other all 3 times were with a move and me having to stay behind to sell the home or stay with a premature baby while everyone else moved on etc.... the longest was for 6 months...too long in my opnion but I always try to see what I can learn from a situation and it always did make me appreciate him more and realize how much he does help and how much I do depend on him and that is never a bad thing. The other times were much less dramatic. My husbnad has almost always been a Scoutmaster and the only time he hasn't been a Scoutmaster he's in the Bishopric. I am the mother of 3 girls and one of my daughters is disabled. I was always glad that he had this opportunity to be with and "Play" with boys since we had none and it did take a lot of weekends and vacation time away from our family. It was almost funny that every year after he would leave for Scout camp something big trauma would happen and of course he was way up in the mountains and unreachable....so I was on my own. So it became a joke or a game with the girls and I to just wait for the "the big thing" to happen and then we could relax the rest of the time he was gone. I have found that when your husband is in Puerto Rico for work and you are trying to sell your home and the water heater breaks and your pulling up carpets and sucking up water.....you just have to laugh! I laugh about these times because in about 2 weeks they are the best stories and memories and your family has bonded! Ramona, I emailed you back on your email about "The Carousel" what a wonderful and nervous time this all must be for you. Go see it because I have a lot of questions. Love you my dear! In our 31 yrs of marriage there were only a few times of long absences from each other all 3 times were with a move and me having to stay behind to sell the home or stay with a premature baby while everyone else moved on etc…. the longest was for 6 months…too long in my opnion but I always try to see what I can learn from a situation and it always did make me appreciate him more and realize how much he does help and how much I do depend on him and that is never a bad thing. The other times were much less dramatic. My husbnad has almost always been a Scoutmaster and the only time he hasn’t been a Scoutmaster he’s in the Bishopric. I am the mother of 3 girls and one of my daughters is disabled. I was always glad that he had this opportunity to be with and “Play” with boys since we had none and it did take a lot of weekends and vacation time away from our family. It was almost funny that every year after he would leave for Scout camp something big trauma would happen and of course he was way up in the mountains and unreachable….so I was on my own. So it became a joke or a game with the girls and I to just wait for the “the big thing” to happen and then we could relax the rest of the time he was gone. I have found that when your husband is in Puerto Rico for work and you are trying to sell your home and the water heater breaks and your pulling up carpets and sucking up water…..you just have to laugh! I laugh about these times because in about 2 weeks they are the best stories and memories and your family has bonded!

Ramona, I emailed you back on your email about “The Carousel” what a wonderful and nervous time this all must be for you. Go see it because I have a lot of questions. Love you my dear!

]]> By: Valerie M. http://www.monasmusings.com/across-hearts/#comment-98 Valerie M. Wed, 13 Jan 2010 20:08:39 +0000 http://www.monasmusings.com/?p=126#comment-98 I'm so glad to see you're back to sharing your wonderful thoughts with all of us. :) Sorry you'll be apart. I don't know how long at a time, but I'd imagine it isn't easy. I hope that you stay busy with fun projects and that that time goes by quickly. I’m so glad to see you’re back to sharing your wonderful thoughts with all of us. :)

Sorry you’ll be apart. I don’t know how long at a time, but I’d imagine it isn’t easy. I hope that you stay busy with fun projects and that that time goes by quickly.

]]> By: mona http://www.monasmusings.com/across-hearts/#comment-97 mona Tue, 12 Jan 2010 16:45:11 +0000 http://www.monasmusings.com/?p=126#comment-97 Lisa, Oh baby! I'm a baby too! Lisa, Oh baby! I’m a baby too!

]]> By: mona http://www.monasmusings.com/across-hearts/#comment-94 mona Tue, 12 Jan 2010 16:39:35 +0000 http://www.monasmusings.com/?p=126#comment-94 Kelsey, if you've done it right together...it does NOT get easier... Kelsey, if you’ve done it right together…it does NOT get easier…

]]> By: mona http://www.monasmusings.com/across-hearts/#comment-93 mona Tue, 12 Jan 2010 16:38:32 +0000 http://www.monasmusings.com/?p=126#comment-93 Oh Jessica! Your practical experience and advice is very helpful. THANK YOU! Oh Jessica! Your practical experience and advice is very helpful. THANK YOU!

]]> By: Jessica http://www.monasmusings.com/across-hearts/#comment-92 Jessica Tue, 12 Jan 2010 15:54:08 +0000 http://www.monasmusings.com/?p=126#comment-92 Oh my, how I felt this way for the 18 months my husband was on the other side of the world for the military. I prayed every night for his safe return. He has been home for about 5 years and I still pray each day that he will return each night. I endured because I had to. There was no other choice. I got involved in things that interested me and that I could do with our one daughter at the time! Now, I endure the separation of other loved ones such as my mother through stories, memories, and spending time with my siblings. Family is the best support group anyone can have during any time of separation. Oh my, how I felt this way for the 18 months my husband was on the other side of the world for the military. I prayed every night for his safe return. He has been home for about 5 years and I still pray each day that he will return each night. I endured because I had to. There was no other choice. I got involved in things that interested me and that I could do with our one daughter at the time!
Now, I endure the separation of other loved ones such as my mother through stories, memories, and spending time with my siblings. Family is the best support group anyone can have during any time of separation.

]]> By: Kelsey Aldridge http://www.monasmusings.com/across-hearts/#comment-91 Kelsey Aldridge Tue, 12 Jan 2010 05:56:00 +0000 http://www.monasmusings.com/?p=126#comment-91 It's nice to see that even after years and years of being together, that you still miss him so when he's away. I'm lucky that I don't have to be seperated from Matt very often, but I hate it when we're apart. I've had so many people tell me that it gets easier to be apart the longer you're together, and I just don't believe it, nor can I imagine it. I miss him when he's away and want him closer when he's near. I hope your husband truly gets how lucky he is to have someone like you adore him...but I'm fairly certain that he does. : ) It’s nice to see that even after years and years of being together, that you still miss him so when he’s away. I’m lucky that I don’t have to be seperated from Matt very often, but I hate it when we’re apart. I’ve had so many people tell me that it gets easier to be apart the longer you’re together, and I just don’t believe it, nor can I imagine it. I miss him when he’s away and want him closer when he’s near. I hope your husband truly gets how lucky he is to have someone like you adore him…but I’m fairly certain that he does. : )

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